Some men just have to be abusive, no matter what. A couple of days ago I received an abusive email from a "fan" of our web site. For some reason he chose me, the web master, to send his obnoxious, venomous, hateful email to. He doesn't care about equality at all, even when it comes to men. He's a very wounded, misdirected, narrow minded person, mis-interpreting what is on our site. He's a blamer. He's full of male privilege and bias. It's unfortunate that men like him are in such denial and will twist the facts to their benefit.
His claims that women are significant perpetrators of DV are not supported by the statistics and the web site does not make any claim what so ever that women don't engage in DV. When women engage in DV, it's usually because they have been abused by their partner for a long time. They see no way out except to fight back, and some do. Of course, the male partner will deny any wrong doing, just to avoid taking responsibility for his thoughts, behaviors, feelings & choices. It's all about choice, accountability and equality.
The man needs to be educated and many even need counseling to help heal his emotional wounds, and IMJ his pride/ego is getting in his way. There is a very high probablity that he is a primary perp who has been through the legal system and not mandated to a Domestic Abuse and Violence education class.
He has no clue how he is affecting society with his ripple effect and he probably doesn't care. So, if you are reading this please pray for all the DV perps out there who need assistance coming to their senses.
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